On a very immature, but somewhat true for most, level – not long after most people are in a relationship they want to be single again & not long after they are single again they want to be in a relationship. The grass is always greener on the other side. This is especially true for people of high status (celebrity divorces).
The Reason For This?
There are two reasons I can think of: People have no fucking clue how to make relationships work & people generally don’t know what they want. Basically, out of scarcity most people throw themselves into relationships & out of stupidity they find themselves thrown out of them.
In some cases it serves people to be single more than in a relationship and vice versa. But instead of looking within themselves, people look to society to tell them how to feel about this subject. For example, some men are actually more productive if they are in a relationships with a variety of women instead of just one, conversely some men need just that one to be productive. This is different person to person.
There a variety of different situations like this.
Do You Know
What Who You Want?
No, really… do you know who you want? What are their traits? Ok, now get that out of your head because it doesn’t exist. You can find someone who is close, but you can never find exactly what you want because your expectations are way too high. You’ve watched one too many movies and have escaped from reality. What you need is someone who has a good head on their shoulders. Someone who can be honest with you and loves the shit out of you, but still has their own version of reality.
Making Relationships Work
I’ll tell you straight away that some relationships aren’t meant to work, the two are not compatible and love fades. Don’t force it. This usually happens if one of the two don’t know what they want. If they are confused, don’t waste time trying to win them over. Just work on being your best self and the right one will come along. Let me say that again, work on being your best self for YOU. Mastery health and your emotions, have some fun – life is short.
Assuming you both want each other and you aren’t confused, than you have a whole other issue: making it work. Even if you are single and not looking for a relationships, i recommend the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The reason is, it will help you understand the opposite sex much better.
Since this is a male perspective, here are some important points when you are with your woman…
Listen without offering solutions – Many relationships don’t work because men do not listen. I don’t mean you have to be a push over and do everything she says, but the least you can do is listen to everything she has to say and NOT OFFER SOLUTIONS. Women don’t want to hear solutions, they just want someone to listen to them. If they need solutions they can go to their girl friends.
Women Think In Emotions, Not Logically – Many men make the mistake of thinking women can even comprehend their intense logical ideas. The problem is a feminine woman is more concerned about feelings and emotions, not logic. Shut the fuck up with your logic and give her a kiss or talk in an emotional way. Most of the time what you feel, she feels.
A Woman’s Friends Are Extremely Important – Respect her friends and her time with them. This will pay back dividends in the future.
Love – Love the girl you are with, don’t just say it. Show it in multiple ways, every single day.
Be Decisive – Know exactly what you want and tell her about it. There is nothing a girl hates more than a guy who does not know what they want – this goes the other way around too 🙂
Masculine / Feminine Polarity is Important
This video says it perfectly…
I’m starving! Until next time…